One way to decide if counseling would be helpful vs going out for coffee or a date night is when the way you talk (or don’t talk) about your problems becomes the problem, when trying to talk drives you further apart, not closer.
When communication breaks down it can be so frustrating for both husbands and wives. I wrote this too for guys who aren’t sure if counseling would help or be worth it.
What if I told you there was a place you could take your wife and you could talk calmly and efficiently and come to agreements about your conflicts.
A place where your need to think things through inside before replying outloud would be honored and uninterrupted.
A place where you would listen to each to other and find the words to understand each other and feel validated and heard.
You wouldn’t have to numb or shut off your emotions but could express them because you’d learn to contain them and not be overwhelmed.
A place where the stress of the present doesn’t steal away the joys of the past or the hope for the future.
There might be some crying involved but it would only take an hour and you’d leave as friends or at least with the hope that you might be again someday?
That it may seem like weakness but to your spouse it’d be the most courageous thing you could do for her.
And really not just for her but for the both of you.
What if I told you it could make all the difference.
Would you go?