When you stop talking

In the busyness of life, it’s easy to lose track of those closest to you.
It isn’t helpful to assume negative things about your kids or your spouse, to assume they’re blowing it or off track somehow.
On the other hand, it isn’t always wise to assume they’re fine either.
Assumptions prevent understanding, honest and trust.
They allow hiding, lack of accountability and self-deception.

The answer is to courageously initiate conversation.
To overcome avoidance and risk rejection
to get to the heart of what is really going on in their lives.

Going first with transparency, leading with an invitation, not an interrogation, being willing to be wrong about your interpretations and hunches, having a mindset of curiosity instead criticism helps too.

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Licensed professional counselor and health coach in Portland, OR
Pre-marital and couples counseling.
Individual counseling for anxiety, depression, insomnia, sleep disorders, sexual addiction, porn addiction, career, transitions, grief, burnout, personal growth.

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