Marriage is like one, big “vulnerability hangover”, especially for guys.
“I do” is saying in part, “I do want you to be the one to reveal my true self to. The one I’ll share my dreams and desires and needs with.”
And the revealing and unraveling doesn’t happen all at once.
The love and safety doesn’t come in the act of being vulnerable – that’s just being brave – it comes in the response.
Pretty scary but worth it.
It helps to learn how to listen, how to hold space, to accept without the knee jerk reaction to fix or change your spouse.
