On Boundaries and Self-Care During The Holidays

I love this time of the year. This new video from Ben Rector captures the spirit of Thanksgiving so well.

It’s the most wonderful time of the year. It can also be the most stressful time.
I did this Facebook Live a few years ago on boundaries and self-care.
It’s especially for moms, perfectionists, and introverts.

One of the things I shared was giving yourself permission to be different instead of doing things the way they’ve always been.
I also said, “The most important thing isn’t what you put on the table, it’s being together.”
It’s hard this year because we can’t get together in the same ways as we have in the past.
But I still hope these videos will encourage you and that you make the most of what the holidays will look like for you this year.

Be brave and rate different areas of your marriage

In this video I ask you to be brave and rate different areas of your marriage, think about solutions and make changes.
It also looks at how and why when things fall apart in one area of the relationship it spreads to other areas. 

This video is part of a month of daily videos I did on marriage in 2018.

This link is to the rest of the videos.

My friend Erika has made some videos on working on marriage during COVID 19 on her YouTube Channel

Tips for Connecting with Your Partner During a Pandemic, Marriage During Covid-19

If you want to work on your marriage during this time here are three books that I often recommend to my clients and friends.

Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson

Created for Connection by Sue Johnson and Kenneth Sandefer

Eight Dates by John and Julie Gottman and Doug and Rachel Abrams

Stop the Fight!: An Illustrated Guide for Couples: How to Break Free from the 12 Most Common Arguments and Build a Relationship That Lasts 

As I mentioned in the first video, stress can really impact marriage. Especially during COVID 19.

CreativeLive.com is offering several stress and wellness courses for free right now.

I hope you are doing well.

Is there anything related to marriage, family, counseling that you have questions about? That you’d like me to write more on?